I was bullied when I was in school and when I was quite young. Throughout the years, after many different “trial and error”, I finally manage to acquire some of the techniques of how to handle those types of bullies that I have experience myself. Here are some of my own opinions and situations. Maybe it can be of some help or maybe it would not. It all depends on the situation and the type of person or background of the bully. Try to solve it yourself and figure it out for yourself what is best for you. These are just my opinions and my own experiences of confrontation with bullies.
Take note, these are just my opinions on how to handle these types of people but you have to take it with a pinch of salt. The bullies that I have encounter are all male. So far, I have not encounter any female bullies. I think its because female bullies like to bully other females. So, if you encounter a female bully…. I’m sorry, I can’t help you there… I only know how to handle male bullies.
There are many different types of bullies and here are just two of the basic kind of bullies in school:-
The School Bully
This person roam around the school and he will always be looking for some victim to terrorise during recess or after school. You don’t normally see the school bully before school. If you see the school bully and he starts bullying you before school, that means he is aiming for you. That would be very dangerous. This school bully would probably be the leader of a group of delinquents and there would probably be a whole bunch of them circling against a weaker victim. Luckily for you, this school bully is not in your class. That is why you call him the “school bully”.
So, to solve this school bully from harming you is to just stay away from him. It is good that he is not in your class and you are probably not his main focus of attention because he would probably be terrorising his own classmate. But if you are in his way or if you are in any way, drive his attention to you, then you are in big trouble. First thing you do is try to stay away from him. Find out his “schedule” and where will he be “at this time or that time” when he is in school and just stay away from his favourite hang-outs or places.
The favourite place for a school bully or ANY other bully to terrorise is the school toilet. So, if you want to use the school toilet, keep a look out on whether the school bully saw you going into the school toilet. If you see him watching you, then go and find another toilet to use. Keep a look-out and get yourself an “informant” on his movements and you would probably be left alone when he gets tired of trying to get you. He will probably start looking for other people to terrorise. This situation applies to a school bully who has “minor interests” in you but if you encounter a school bully which have a “major interests” in you, then you have to use another type of method to solve this problem.
First, as usual, find out his “schedule” and movements. Now that you know, try to stay away from him but if he still try to terrorise you, then this is what you do. What is the bullying about? Money? Then don’t bring any money. Bring only 1 dollar to school. Homework? Then act dumb. You suddenly become the dumbest person in school. He like to beat you up just for the sake of having fun? Then report to your school teacher/principal. This is because no matter you report or not… you still get beaten up, so might as well report him. Try to figure out what he always wants from you and solve it accordingly. I don’t recommend you fighting the bully because you are probably one person and the bully has “friends”. Fighting is the last resort and only to defend yourself.
Here’s an idea.. normally and always this is the case, no matter whether it is a school bully or class bully or whatever bully… they always smoke. I have not encounter a bully who does not smoke. It’s all about the “macho factor” and peer factor. So, normally they have cigarettes in their school beg or pockets. So, you just have to figure out where are his cigarettes and report him anonymously to the teacher or principal. That would probably get him in trouble and it would be peace & quiet for you. Just remember … ANONYMOUSLY.. if he ever find out it is you… you will be in bigger trouble than before…. USE this as a last resort after you have tried all the rest…
The Class Bully
Same as above but this time the person might be sitting beside you or sitting across from you. Normally, a class bully interests in you would probably be your homework and class assignments. He would bully you in completing his homework and if not, he will beat you up. You are unable to stay away from him and he is always there. BIG trouble. The class bully would probably has his own gang of people in class but if he doesn’t, there is a way for you to solve the situation.
When a class bully start bullying his own classmates, he normally would not have any friends in class. As what people say, Your Enemy Are My Friends. So, maybe you could band together all those terrorised classmates and try to figure out how to solve the situation. My solution, I try to solve it myself. I do not want to involve others. I have several different types of class bully over the years and I tackle it differently each time. For the bully that wants my homework, I act dumb. Suddenly, I don’t remember the multiplication table.. heh heh. Also, sometimes I gave the wrong answer in class whenever the teacher asks me a question. So, that bully shifted his attention to the other geek in class.
The second time, it was a class bully that like to beat me up. He was sitting beside me. So, whenever the teacher is not around, he would punch me in the arm, shove me around, cursed and use vulgar words against me and my parents. Until I can’t take it no more and decided to show him a lesson. When the teacher has her back to the class and writing on the board, the bully was shoving me, agitating me into fighting him and cursing my father/mother, etc. I told him several times to stop but he did not stop and continue babbling, cursing and shoving. What happens next… I suddenly gave him a punch on his stomach under the table and he slump in pain with his head on the table and his hands holding his stomach. My other friend on the next table saw what happen and he smile and I smile back. It was a “quiet punch”. No one else knows about it.
And when he regain his composure, he stood up and begin hitting me on the head with his hands (but it was not painful at all). I guessed when I punch him in the stomach, he lost some of the energy to fight back. I felt like being hit with a book rather than a stone. At the same time, the teacher turn her back and saw him hitting me. The teacher shouted and he stopped. He was warned that if he ever do that again, he will be suspended from school. Since then, the bully stop bullying me and he did not sit beside me again. It was a FUN event for me and since then he stop talking to me or try to avoid me… hah ah ah.. good riddance…
These are just two examples…of my own situations…. It was the good of times and it was the worst of times.. Nevertheless, it was an experience that is to be shared and remember.
Oh yeah.. by the way…. I was the SNITCH that informed the principal of the bullies that smoke in the toilets and where they keep their cigarettes.. Hah Hah Hah Hah… a WHOLE bunch of the bullies got CANED in the butt on stage during the school assembly… HAHA HAH HA.. good riddance…it was the Highlight of my school days!! They never found out who was the snitch …. Hah ah hahh.. I am forever FOR CANING.. it was good to see them got caned…. Heh heh eh
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